After breaking up, our next concern is mending our broken heart. Other says lots of things, to mend broken heart, but none of them really specify steps on how to mend the broken heart. Coming from a reliable source, I got this information:

1. Go through it not around it  – You have to grieve in order for you to move on. Feel the pain until it hurts no more.

2. Detach and reveal in your independence again – attempting to feel devoid yourself , without rushing to a new relationship or trying desperately to win your lover back.

3. List your strength – move on from this sadness and try to be a productive individual in this world.

4. Allow some fantasizing – grieve would not be the natural process but it should be without your name with the person you’ve just lost. If your trying to vanish a sexual fantasy from your head telling yourself I am not going to fantasize about him or I wont think about what it would be like to be intimate with him, make it worst.

5. Help some one else – bucks up all your feelings source them and try to find a used for them.

6. Laugh and cry – laughter heals in so many levels, and so does crying. Do you think is just coincidence that you always feel better after a good cry. No, there are many psychological reasons that contribute to that healing power of tears. Some of them have been documented.

7. Make a good and bad list – you need to know which activities will make you feel good and which one will make you want to toilet paper your ex lover, you wont really know which activities belongs, on which list until you start trying things. But I suspect that things like checking out his facebook wall and profile picture of his new gorgeous girlfriend, is not going to make you feel good. So put that on the dont attempt list.

8. Work it out – working out your grieve quite literally by running, swimming, exercising, walking or kick boxing is going to give you immediately relief on physiological level because exercise increases the activity stimulates brain chemicals that foster grows nerves cells but also an emotional level because you are taking charge and becoming the master of your mind and body plus you can visualize the person who is responsible for your pain.

9. Create a new world – create your new safe world, full of new friends who would not recognize him in crowd and dont know how this fella’s name and where his not allowed to drop by for a figurative or literal surprise visit.

10. Find HOPE – there is one emotion that is stronger that fear and that is forgiveness, but forgiveness requires hope believing that a better place exist that aching emptiness experience every activity wont be with you forever. Hope is believing that sadness can evaporate but if you try like heal move on with your life smile wont be forced and remember to love again. Once our heart is bruised and burnt from the relationship ended, we have two options we can close of pieces of our hearts so that, one day no one will be able to go inside or we can love deeply just as we did before.